I had a conversation recently that reminded me of something I learned the hard way. A man in recovery told me he finally understood that his expectations were the very thing upsetting him. But he didn’t know how to stop having them. He couldn’t imagine moving through the world without them.
I remember feeling the same way. People in recovery would say, "expectations are premeditated resentments." I agreed with them (in theory) and had absolutely no idea how to live that way in practice.
How do you walk through life, especially with family, and not expect people to act a certain way? How do you let go of the exact outcomes you’re sure would make things easier?!
What I’ve learned is that peace never comes from controlling other people. It comes from...Read more
by Barb Nangle, Boundaries Coach, Speaker and Podcaster
photo credit: Liana S.
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