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Photo Credit: Yunus TugLet’s say someone asks where you’d like to go for dinner, and you immediately start thinking about what everyone else would enjoy. You know who likes which restaurant, who won’t want to drive very far, and who might complain…
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This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary.When someone you love is upset, something inside you shifts. Perhaps your partner’s disappointed that…
Tuesday
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Photo Credit: Rizky MotionSee if this sounds familiar: you finish a meeting knowing you were prepared. You answered the questions, contributed something useful, and followed through on what you’d promised. But your boss seemed a little distracted…
Sep 25
Barb Nangle posted a blog post
This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary.Someone asks whether you can help with something. You’re already tired. Your calendar is full, you have…
Sep 22
Barb Nangle posted a blog post
Photo Credit: Fellipe DitadiFor years, I described myself as conflict-averse. I didn't like conflict, and I assumed avoiding difficult conversations was how I “kept the peace.” But I wasn't actually avoiding conflict. I was allowing it to take place…
Sep 18
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This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary.You can walk into a conversation knowing exactly what you need. You’ve thought it through, written it…
Sep 15
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When being “the dependable one” turns into carrying an organization that was never yours to carry alonePhoto Credit: Chu ChuThere’s often one person in a workplace who knows where everything is, remembers what everyone else has forgotten, notices…
Sep 11
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Sep 9
Barb Nangle posted a blog post
 I have a quote taped to my bathroom mirror. It’s been there for years. The paper is faded. It’s covered with water spots. At this point, it’s held together as much by tape as by paper.I keep it because it reminds me of one of the hardest truths…
Jul 17
Barb Nangle posted a blog post
Your nervous system and your thinking haven’t been updated yet.Have you ever found yourself reacting to something and later wondered, Why did I get so upset about that?Maybe someone misunderstood your intentions, and you immediately felt defensive.…
Jul 10
Barb Nangle posted a blog post
Photo Credit: Gantas VaiciulenasOne of the phrases I hear most often from clients is some version of “I have to.”I have to stay in this job.I have to help.I have to keep the peace.I have to say yes.I have to take care of everyone else…
Jul 3
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Photo Credit: Christina WocintechchatOne of the most important things I’ve learned in recovery is how to have difficult conversations.For most of my life, I avoided them whenever possible. If something was bothering me, I would think about it…
Jun 26
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Photo Credit: Daria Trofimova Have you ever had someone say something about you that felt was completely untrue? Maybe they told you that you’re selfish or inconsiderate, or they said you don’t care about them.Whatever the accusation, before you…
Jun 19
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