Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It

The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people don’t even realize they have it.

Just because…

Just under a dozen tents have been cleared from a backyard homeless encampment on Rosette Street to make space for six new ​“tiny homes,” the latest local experiment in providing emergency shelter to those most in need.

Those prefabricated houses, all under 100 square feet each, popped up this past weekend behind …

You may be a people-pleaser if you…

• go way above and beyond the “call of duty”
• really want people to depend on you and you’re crushed when you’re not able to follow through on something you said you’d do
• you jump through hoops to make things happen for other people
• you frequently drop what you’re doing to help…

Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It

The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer.

When I first learned of it, it explained so much of the dynamics of my life – within all of my relationships. If you’ve had dysfunctional relationships at any point, it…

In November, City Gallery presents The Other Part, an exhibition of mixed media art and clay work by Sheila Kaczmarek. The show runs Friday, November 3 - Sunday, November 26. The Opening Reception on Saturday, November 4 will feature live music from 2-5pm by Mike Reinhauzen and Len Kaczmarek.

Kaczmarek’s haunting work looks at…

Towns in Connecticut that issue more permits for housing are not only bringing in residents and jobs and encouraging employers to locate there, but they are also delivering to their residents a lower rate of real property tax growth than towns which issue fewer permits...

https://ctmirror.org/2023/10/13/ct-housing-units-property-tax-rates/ ;

When Kilynn Johnson walks out the door of the house her parents bought in 1972, where she grew up and lives to this day, she steps into the warm embrace of a community where neighbors feel more like kin. Her home sits across the street from Stinger Square Park, where Johnson passed long days of her childhood playing alongside her siblings and cousins and friends. But by age 8, diagnosed with asthma, she spent more time sitting on the sidelines,…

The New York Times recently took a culinary trip over the border to Connecticut, examining tomato pie, the Northeast staple influenced by Italian immigrants that's a mainstay at New Haven's most famous apizza restaurants.…

More than 119,000, or about 19%, of young people in Connecticut between the ages of 14 and 26 were “at risk” or “disconnected” in 2021-22, according to a new Dalio Education report released Wednesday morning.

The report, which compiled data from the Connecticut Coalition to End Homelessness, Department of Children and Families, Department of Labor, Department of Mental Health and Addiction Services and the state…

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Are you a talented early childhood professional looking to increase access to high-quality early care and education programs across New Haven? Are you good at supporting program directors to help them be the best they can be? Do you like finding new ways of engaging families and community members in the work of expanding early care and…

Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It

1. Realize you have victim mentality

This mentality can be super hard to see because it's deeply entrenched. Having this mentality  doesn't mean you're bad or weak. You've internalized a mode of thinking that was useful to you at one time, likely because you were victimized somehow.

If you continually think, “If __ would…

Part 2 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It

If you have the mentality of victimhood, you likely got it from being victimized in some way. For me, it was from growing up with the dysfunction of my childhood. It wasn’t something egregious like being kidnapped; it was the continual drip-drip-drip of emotional invalidation and abandonment I experienced. When you internalize victim mentality, it permeates every area of your life and just…

Part 1 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It

This is part 1 of a 5 part series on what victim mentality is and how to get out of it. In this essay, I’ll share how understanding “your part in things” (as we say in 12-step recovery) brings you out of victim mentality.



If you’re not familiar with victim mentality, it’s a way of thinking that’s so deeply internalized that we don’t realize we have it. You might call it a…

The Community Foundation welcomes the third cohort to the program that is building a pipeline for new, more diverse leadership in Greater New Haven’s nonprofit community.

New Haven, Conn. (Oct. 4, 2023) The Community Foundation for Greater New Haven (The Foundation) welcomes the third…

If you’re constantly pissed off at things like the barista getting your coffee order wrong or that there’s traffic on the highway, you might need to learn acceptance.

That was my problem for most of my life. Once I started to understand that lack of acceptance was my problem, things began to change. I came to understand that it wasn’t the coffee order or the traffic – it was my thinking was the source of all my problems.

It became clear that my…

How do you succeed as a young creative person today? How do you make it? What does it even mean to make it now?

The old models, pathways, and rules—some not even that old—have been scrambled and upended in the past few years, as the traditional gatekeepers and arbiters are replaced by the herky-jerky algorithmic democracy of social media. In place of the lowbrow-highbrow divide, we spend much of our lives immersed in…

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Untangling the 'predictable calamity' of Connecticut's child care industry to find solutions…